Forgiveness

“The first to apologies is the bravest. The first to forgive is the strongest. The first to forget is the happiest.”
sri sri Ravi Shankar

Does forgiveness come easily for you? I know forgiveness is a hard subject for some people. When you’ve been defrauded, or taken advantage of in some way, forgiveness may not be in the vocabulary of words that may jump out at you initially. And this is understandingly so.

It is difficult to forgive someone who has stolen your money, told lies on you, or have literally used you as a front for something evil they were doing. I suppose in theory, a person has a right to be bitter. But forgiveness is so much easier on the heart and mind than anger and vengeance.

Those emotions could be all too consuming and distracting.
Why forgiveness is easier on the heart and mind you might ask? One reason that jumps out at me right away is because you will have a lot less stress in your life.

You can rest easier and return to your normal life faster. Anger and resentment is hard on the body. By that I mean it builds up stress. Stress presents a negative cycle of events. It leads to high blood pressure; high blood pressure can lead to a stroke or heart attack; This can all lead to a substandard quality of life or even death.

Also, prolonged anger could be harmful in your relationships with others. You may not smile as much, or you may monopolize your conversations with how you were victimized by that crook or assailant. People are generally sympathetic and supportive, but they usually don’t want to hear the same bad news every single day.

I don’t believe anyone would want to live their life with pent up anger. It’s not worth it.

If you’ve been victimized by someone, think about what happened that led to you being victimized, and learn from that experience. You don’t have to be friends with the person; in fact, this may not be a wise thing to do anyway. But let go of the anger so you can get on with your life and heal emotionally.

Forgiveness is the first step in that direction.
Healthy trails to you.
Carolyn

10 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Katie
    Jul 24, 2012 @ 22:46:20

    Well said.

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  2. thehealthywarrior
    Jul 24, 2012 @ 22:54:30

    Hi Katie. Thanks for stopping by and I’m glad you liked the post. 🙂

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  3. Karen Wan
    Jul 25, 2012 @ 00:05:43

    Thanks for the reminder. I really like Ravi Shankar quote too. I’ll have to think about whether there are some areas in my life that forgiving and forgetting would be beneficial.

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  4. asterisk * photography
    Jul 25, 2012 @ 02:42:59

    Great subject. I’ll be sure to link back to this post when I blog on the same shortly 😉 Kim*

    http://www.100days100ways.wordpress.com

    Reply

  5. Steve
    Jul 26, 2012 @ 04:50:19

    Love this!

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  6. thehealthywarrior
    Jul 26, 2012 @ 13:54:14

    Hi Kim. Thanks for your visit. AND thanks for linking your post back to this one. I enjoy reading your blog also.

    Reply

  7. thehealthywarrior
    Jul 26, 2012 @ 13:55:20

    Hi Steve. As always thank for the visit. I’m glad you enjoyed the post.

    Reply

  8. souldipper
    Jul 31, 2012 @ 03:31:49

    I remember hearing that not forgiving is drinking poison made for someone else – over and over again. Forgiveness is essential for my good health and well-being. Sometimes it take a bit of time to begin, but I trust I’ll get there. I can’t afford resentments. My body doesn’t like holding them! 😀

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    • healthyme365
      Jul 31, 2012 @ 05:25:32

      I agree with you Amy, forgiveness is like drinking poison for someone else. We all can rest easier,, and live healthier and happier by simply being forgiving. Thanks for dropping by.

      Reply

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